You want to know the secret? Give more than you take. More to the point, give more than you take and be genuinely damn happy about it. Think about it. If we all did this—this whole being sincere and positive and charitable thing—the world would be a far, far better place.
If you don’t rediscover love on a daily basis, you are missing out.
The other day I was reading an article about marriage proposals and what should be true of your relationship if you’re going to accept one. Do you make each other better? Do you have fun together? Do you fight fair? Do you agree with one another’s views on religion, intimacy, finances, children, and so on? Are you still happy when you are apart? Do you know who you are as a person? Sitting in this home we have built together, thinking about our lives as individuals and as a couple, trying to find the perfect wording for the promises that will shape our lives when said in front of God and our loved ones, it is only getting harder to wait to be Mrs. Ryan Adam McCue.
This is a person coming up for air. This is me resurfacing, clinging to an idea I think I had before my lungs filled with fluid and my brain hungered for air. This is progress of the darkest, most exquisite kind.
As I write this I am sitting still, possibly for the first time today. My days are filled with work: teaching, writing, and planning every detail of my daughter…
“What my mother never told me, I will gladly tell my daughter (and the other young women I mentor)—which is: get a passport; see as much of the world as you can, and be shaped by those journeys. Don’t spend your time training to become someone’s wife, as a wise person will always choose a partner who is already whole and individual and happy.”